Top Harnesses for Strap-On Play

Ready to harness the power of strap-on play? There are so many styles of harness to choose from, and there’s a fit for everybody (and every body). Here are some of the most popular types of strap-on harnesses you’ll find, and our top picks for each category - sex educator and strap-on enthusiast approved!

Classic Strap-On Harnesses

The classic strap-on harness is designed after the jock strap, featuring two or three straps that adjust around the waist and thighs to hold your dildo in place over the pubic mound, so it extends in the same placement as a penis would be on the body. These classic styles are great for strap-on explorers of all levels, since they provide extra support from the customizable straps that can be adjusted to fit to the shape of your body.

Low Rider Harness

When I picture “strap on” in my head, this iconic leather harness style is the first thing that comes to mind - it’s basically the textbook image of a harness. The soft leather straps contour to the body for a comfortable fit, and the metal buckles offer a sturdy fit of a variety of sizes (waists 30” - 44”). The O-ring - that’s the part that holds your dildo in place - is interchangeable so you can swap it out to fit whatever girth of dildo your heart desires.

Entry Level Strap-On

Just as the name implies, this simple design of harness is perfect for first-time strap-on tops. The straps are four-way adjustable to fit up to a 60” waist, and the thigh straps can move to allow the harness base to rest higher or lower on your body to find what position works best for you. Combine that with an interchangeable O-ring and a price point that’s less than two San Francisco cocktails and this harness is perfect for discovering your ideal strapping experience.

SpareParts Joque Cover Harness

Oh Joque, how do I love thee? Let me count the ways (because there are a lot). Seriously, this harness is the perfect blend of a classic jock-style harness and a pair of underwear, with a buttery-soft lightweight material and super adjustable nylon straps that secure with Velcro and slide buckles so you can strap in quickly in the heat of the moment. The cover slides back to allow access to the sewn-in O-ring from both sides, so this harness can be used with double-ended dildos as well as your standard strap-on dildo. Bonus: because the thigh straps rest just under your bum, they give your cheeks a little lift when you wear it.

Brief-Style Harnesses

If you’re looking to slip into something comfy and efficient, brief-style harnesses are for you. Designed just like a pair of your fave undies - but with a sturdier waistband and a sewn-in O-ring for your dildo - this style blends in and can be worn under your clothing just like your daily undergarments, and is perfect for packing as well. You know what they say: if you stay ready, you ain’t gotta get ready.

Contour Harness

Crafted from super soft and stretchy fabric, this harness is designed for all-day wear in an iconic silhouette that’s both genderless and flattering for a variety of body shapes. The lightweight breathable material is moisture-wicking so you can stay fresh, and the elastic waistband is stretchy yet sturdy to keep you in position whether you’re packing or pegging. 

Tomboii Fabric Boxer Brief Harness

Sexy and stylish, the Tomboii Boxer Brief Harness is ideal for those looking for a little extra coverage from their harness. With two elastic O-rings discreetly hidden beneath the front flap, you can choose the position and height of your dildo or use both at the same time for some DP (double penetration) fun. Plus, there’s a little hidden pocket inside that’s the perfect size for stashing away some condoms, dental dams, lube packets, or bullet vibes.

Fit Harness Fishnet

This cheeky little number is perfect for showing off your assets (puns intended) with a flirtatious cut in a stretchy and comfortable fishnet design. Internal pockets above and below the sewn-in O-ring allow for some extra sensation for the wearer and/or receiver by slipping in some bullet vibes to add even more stimulation to your strap-on play. 

Alternative Harnesses

Did you know that strap-ons aren’t just for the waist? Alternative harnesses can be worn on other parts of the body - whether it’s for aesthetic, accessibility and mobility, exploring multiple penetration, discovering new positions, or getting creative with new ways to love strap-on play - no hip thrusts required.

Handy Strap-On Harness

This harness is a game-changer when it comes to solo or partnered play by providing a way to keep your strap handy without having to worry about it slipping at the worst moment. Great for those who may need an assist with their grip, or for anyone that wants to keep their fingers movable (hello, clit stim) while they wield their favorite dildo. This adjustable snap-on leather harness can be comfortably worn leftie, rightie, on the back of the hand, at the knuckles, or on the palm.

Ultra Thigh Strap-on Harness

When it comes to versatility, this thigh harness has you covered. This sturdy yet soft neoprene harness fits a circumference from 17” - 32” so you can strap it around your thigh, knee, arm, a pillow, a column… get creative! Wear it on the upper thigh for some penetration during grinding or tribbing play, wrap it around a knee and have a partner get on all fours while you stand behind them, or strap it around your pillow and hump to your heart’s desire.