How To Spice Up Your Relationship In 2025: The Best Sex Toys For Couples

Sex in long-term relationships may naturally grow stale over time, so try not to worry. Rekindling passion or sexual chemistry might take some effort, but rest assured that it’s possible … and you can have a lot of fun doing it! 

If you’re curious about how to bring excitement back into a relationship or reignite bedroom chemistry, we’re here to give you advice on all of the above with the help of some of our favorite pleasure products. We’ll also be including expert-backed tips for how to enjoy each one with your partner.

Sex toys for spicing up your relationship

Below, find a list of the best toys to support couples’ sexual wellness in 2025 along with ideas on how to use them from Lisa Finn, sex educator for Good Vibes’ sibling brand Babeland.

Sex and Mischief Enchanted Heart Paddle 

“Whether you’re just beginning to try out impact play or you’re a spanking enthusiast, a double-sided paddle like the Sex and Mischief Enchanted Heart Paddle is a great option to keep things interesting,” says Finn. 

She recommends using the faux fur side to tease your partner or for some sensory play with a delicate touch across their skin. You could also alternate between the stingy leather side for a sharper impact and the plush side to break up your spanking set. “The soft faux fur is great for rubbing along just-spanked skin while the nerve endings are engaged and the skin is sensitive, making each touch even more intense,” she adds.

Before you use a paddle or try impact play for the first time, we recommend reading the Good Vibes guide on spanking, bondage, and BDSM for beginners to learn the ropes and safety precautions.

Remote Control Vibrating Lace Thong Set

Vibrators for couples come in all shapes and sizes, including wearable options that are ideal for discreet foreplay. For example, check out this sexy, vibrating lace underwear that comes with a remote control that your partner can use to drive you wild.

Finn suggests letting your partner control your stimulation while it hides under your clothes during dinner, around the house, on a walk, or as a new addition to your usual sex acts. “Try having your partner control your Remote Control Vibrating Thong while you go down on them for some mutual play,” she adds.

On the topic of wearables, dressing up in lingerie can also serve as a great starting point for exploring fantasies. If you’ve ever wondered, “how can I introduce roleplay to my partner?” then check out our full catalog of sexy lingerie ideas and costumes, such as maids, tuxedos, school girls, and nurse sets.

Mio Cock Ring by Je Joue

Je Joue’s Mio is one of Finn’s favorite cock rings on the market. “The silicone band is super soft and extremely stretchy (a marketing campaign by Je Joue once showed the Mio stretched around an entire melon), but still provides the pressure you want from a cock ring to help control blood flow for a stronger erection,” she says.

Finn adds that this toy features a “delightfully low-pitched yet powerful rumbly motor with a vibration that really penetrates deep into the body,” making it a great option for folks who aren’t into buzzier surface-level vibes.

A partner with a penis can wear this during oral sex or penetration to add an extra rumbly sensation. Since this cock ring is waterproof, they can also keep it on in the shower to build arousal before heading into the bedroom.

Enchanted Restraint Kit

Exploring BDSM in a relationship can lead you into exciting new territory with your partner. “When you throw sensory play and bondage into your scene — even if all your other moves are the same as you’re used to — the experience will be completely different, and can offer you some real-time inspiration to change things up and let touch lead,” says Finn.

The Enchanted Restraint Kit is delightfully simple with a blindfold and pair of cuffs, yet it can open the door to endless exploration in the bedroom. Try using the blindfold to experiment with sensory deprivation or playing around with the cuffs to add (or remove) elements of control between you and your partner. However, how to use restraints with your partner ultimately depends on your interests, boundaries, and comfort levels. 

Under The Bed Restraint System

Perhaps more advanced than the previous restraint kit is this under-the-bed system that fits up to a California king-size mattress. Finn says this is her favorite restraint set for small spaces or for folks who need to keep their kink discreetly hidden from housemates, children, or guests. “You can just tuck it under the mattress between uses so that it’s easily accessible next time you want to explore bondage but completely hidden from prying eyes,” she adds. “Also, it’s super easy to set up, and there’s no drilling or hardware needed (shout-out to rental units).”

You or your partner can be restrained while lying on the back or stomach (with or without the blindfold from the Enchanted kit). Then, one partner can perform oral, manual, or penetrative sex — or do whatever else they’d like — while the other person is limited in their range of motion. Remember to establish consent, boundaries, and a safeword beforehand!

Intimate Earth Naked Aromatherapy Massage Oil

Building intimacy can be accomplished by something as simple as giving or receiving a massage, especially if one partner’s love language is physical touch. “Whether you’re using it as a form of foreplay, a tender way to reconnect during aftercare, or as a standalone way to have intimate touch outside of sex, taking time to really explore the entire body is a great way to discover new ways that we can connect physically with a partner,” Finn explains.

Intimate Earth’s natural massage oil is non-greasy, made with nourishing ingredients like vitamin E and aloe, and a perfect addition to a sensual full-body massage — happy ending or not! It’s also fragrance-free, making it a great option for partners with sensitive skin. Instead of jumping right into penetration, take your time to explore each other’s bodies and heat things up with your hands (and some help from this massage oil).

Box of Dares

How do we keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship? One effective way is to get creative and try new things like sex games! If you don’t know where or how to begin, lean on this box of naughty dares for inspiration.

Finn recommends integrating it into a game of truth or dare, using the dare cards as challenges, or just reading them for ideas and conversation starters on how to spice up your sex life. “There’s no rule that says you have to do exactly what’s written,” she says. “Get creative with how you interpret the dare or tweak it to suit your mutual desires, and always use consent practices.”

Rimming Plug 2

Butt plugs can be a fun toy for any — and every — body! According to Finn, “Too many people ignore the rim of the anus as an erogenous hot-spot, but it is so nerve-dense that the sensations you can get from stimulating it can be orgasmic.”

This vibrating rimming plug comes with a remote control that you or your partner can control. It works up to 30 feet away, so you could even have your partner play around with the settings from a different room or while you’re out together. Otherwise, consider inserting it during any form of sex to engage in some extra feel-good prostate or anal stimulation.

In’s and Out’s

If you haven’t yet tried mutual masturbation (aka masturbating at the same time), add it to your to-do list. You could simply use your hands, or you could allow this dildo/plug and vibrating stroker kit to help you and your partner get started.

“Use it as a form of foreplay to turn each other on by watching or showing off, learn what your partner really likes by having them show you exactly how they touch themselves, or have it be the main course — either IRL or over a sexy video chat,” suggests Finn. If you’re together and about to reach orgasm, you might ask your partner to help you finish the job while they continue touching themselves.

Bonus: Yes/No/Maybe Lists

Before you dive in fully, consider creating Yes/No/Maybe lists with your partner to detail which toys and practices are a yes, no, or maybe to each of you. Making and discussing your lists can help you both get on the same page about what you may be interested in trying together.

“This handy tool can act as an incredible ice breaker when it comes to facilitating a conversation about the things we want to try in the bedroom,” says Finn. “For couples, it can also exist as a way to curate a list of inspiration so that the next time you feel stuck in a routine or simply are in the mood to try something new, you can take a look at your mutual ‘yes’-es and start exploring.” To get started, check out this free printable list and how-to guide on the Good Vibes website.

Thanks for reading! We hope this list of tips and couples sex toys will help you shake up any boring routine you might have with your partner and bring more excitement into the bedroom. Whether you’re reading this at the start of 2025 or at another point throughout the year, now is a great time to start exploring ways to spice up your sex life.

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Morgan Mandriota is a New York-based writer and editor who specializes in creating content about health, wellness, sex, and relationships. She’s conducted hundreds of interviews and tested countless products during her career in media over the last 10 years. In her free time, she enjoys thrifting, playing video games, and cuddling her cat. https://www.morganmandriota.com/